…who’s the fairest of them all?
Searching for the answer to that question in the world or trying to be the answer to that question will only lead to disappointment. Beauty fades, and when we make beauty a contest no one really wins.
And yet we spend so much time and energy trying to be beautiful and comparing ourselves to people around us.
Either putting others down: Well at least I’m prettier than her.
Or putting ourselves down: That girl is gorgeous. I would look so much better if I had hair like hers.
I believe that when trying to define our beauty, we tend to listen to either the world or ourselves.
But our beauty cannot be found listening to the ever-changing and distorted views of a fallen world. And our worth shouldn’t be looked for within ourselves trusting our wicked hearts. (Jeremiah 17:9)
Our value is defined by God, and we should look to him alone to find it.
However, I’ll be the first to admit I too often look to the world or myself to find my worth.
Most days I am not praising God because I’m fearfully and wonderfully made. Instead I’m often questioning his design. Deep down I know my beauty and worth comes from Christ, but fighting the feelings of inadequacy is a daily struggle.
I don’t think I’m the only one with this problem. And I definitely don’t have all the answers, so I want to search God’s Word for wisdom.
I would like to invite you on my journey not so we can feel better about ourselves just for the sake of our self image. Then God would just be another self help tool.
God doesn’t exist to make us feel better about ourselves. He exists to make his name known and glorified.
We exist to bring him glory. And he created each one of us beautifully to carry out that purpose.
When we start to look away from the mirror and into God’s face, we will begin to see that he truly is the fairest of them all. We will be amazed and humbled that he would even think about us–let alone send his son to die to save us.
When we start believing how much God loves us, then we stop looking to the world for approval.
When we stop looking to the world for approval and comparing ourselves to others, then we start to see that everyone is beautifully made by God.
Finally we realize it’s really not about us. Everyone desperately needs to know God. It’s about us loving others the way God has loved us.
And truly loving people can only be accomplished by pointing them to beauty of Christ and the gospel instead of seeking approval and love for ourselves.
Note: I’m not an expert in this! I struggle so much with how to find my value in Christ instead of looking to others. I’m going to be open and honest with my struggles and see where God leads. I’ll probably post once a month on this topic as I continue myself to understand and truly believe that I am wonderfully made.